We´re all in love with this cat here at home, so you´ll please have to bear with me talking about him for a little while. It´s been a long time since I had a pet and the first time for my family, so this is a big deal.
It is an extraordinary feeling loving a pet and people should not shy away from it. "It's just a dog, it's just a cat" people say. It's a beloved member of the family, it's sometimes (and in some cases more than ever) the best companion you have and always a joyful relationship. Enjoy your new baby love (for he's a baby during a few months). :)
I'm glad for you Luciana. But to Malu, why should I "not shy away from it"? Naturally, if I respect or love a person I must respect their choice of pet, but that's as far as it goes. I love wild creatures more. I don't mean cuddly ones either, but the ones I encounter in daily life at home: spiders, wasps, slugs, woodlice, rats, as well as the wild birds who visit my little garden. It's a different sort of love, one which does not mimic mother-love, but is based on profound admiration for nature in making these creatures completely independent of human nurture.
The kitten as well as you are cute. Is that she? She has large ears.
Is it cold over there right now? Behind you, are they logs? Are you wearing a sweater? You did mentioned before that where you live gets cold. But still, the image of Brazil is a warm place. Oh, yes, you made a point. It looks warm and cozy.
Malu, I know what you mean: many people we know would love to have a pet but don´t because they don´t feel capable of looking after or loving anything.It has nothing to do with the pet, actually. Well, people change... (hopefully) :-)
Vincent, one of the reasons I love cats and dogs, and all animals, actually, is because they remind me we share something wild. They remind me about my belonging in nature. I would never, ever, have a bird cage in my home, because I love birds, and keeping them in cages would be depriving them of their nature, which is to fly. Cats are hunters, and I´m fully aware I have one at home. All creatures are wild, Vincent, including humans. Realizing about our essence, our wild nature, is the best way to keep it healthy.
Keiko, it´s cold here now! Malu and Lidi can confirm that, we live in the same town. It´s a fireplace you see in the background and staring at the fire is one of my favorite activities when I want to relax. Of course now a feline accompanies me in that... :-)
Oh, I there Vincent.:) What I (probably clumsly) meant is that we should not shy away from whomever we love. Spiders. Mouses (my father had a mouse when he was very young and completely alone). When you have pets people may make you feel like it's not right to pour so much affection into animals. I think it's BS. Love and let love, that's all. And for the mimicking parental love, well, that's from one's very personal nature, either you're gonna do it, or not. Not everybody MUST have a pet. Or children. Or, say, climb mountains. But if they decide to, I'd say live it shamelessly. :)
Malu, I agree with you. My sister (who sometimes reads my blog but won't, I think read this) has an aged Siamese cat that she acquired from an animal rescue place. It was love at first sight - from one side at any rate. It seems to me it would be kinder to the cat to have had its life humanely terminated years ago, such is the extent of its ailments and probable sufferings. When she goes away she has to employ cat-sitters for it is too frail to be sent to a cattery. I have been sometimes reluctant to visit her house because of the cat's incontinence.
But as you say, love is love. Unrequited love is often thought of as a sickness. I imagine that it's hard to prove conclusively that a cat loves its provider, however much the provider loves the cat.
Now the thing is, I would never breathe a word to my sister about my thoughts on this. Yet for some reason, I feel it is OK to behave badly when a guest of Luciana. And Keiko will know what I mean too. I behave badly on her blog in the same way.
I have to finish translating that Miguel Torga´s short story for you, Vincent, even if you don´t like my translation. Anyway, you bring into question two very interesting points: 1.Love. I´ve lost many loved ones, including both my parents, to understand it is about letting others live and not having them as comfort toys we keep in our pockets, metaphorically speaking. I think that is true for humans as well as other species. And when the time comes that life is not about living anymore, but becomes an unbearable torture and an imprisonment in a suffering body, I believe it is best to let go, to end it, if possible. Honestly. I´m quite open about this. I agree with you, your sister should have ended that.
2. The way you 'handle' love. You know, I don´t impose my children, my husband and, to an extension, my pet to anyone. They are my loved ones, nobody else needs to find them cute, attractive, special etc. There are many people who are uncomfortable with animals, so they don´t need to have a cat thrown in their lap when they come over to visit. Quite honestly, I have an aunt whose dachshund drives me nuts, and it´s always the same thing when I visit her: I ring the doorbell, the dog barks his lungs out, she yells at him, opens the door, he jumps at my legs, she scolds him, then grabs him and locks him away. They do that to every single person who goes there. Why didn´t she lock him away when she heard the doorbell ring? A mystery. As I said before, I appreciate your visits, Vincent. You´re honest, and I like that.
Lol! You didn't behave badly, Vincent. Let me wish your sister luck in her difficulty in letting her pet go. I have helped people understand they have to help their pets go, have lost my share of pets, and it's a touchy subject, it has to be handled very carefully and involves a lot of tears. We do that cause we know it's the right thing to be done, but it stings as hell. Too bad we can barely bring the subject up when it involves human suffering, hu? Great meeting you. :)
PS: I'm sorry they lock the poor neurotic dashchund, Lu. They're usually the sweetest things. :/
He is so precious, Lu, and look how his little face rests so perfectly on his paw. It's been a long time since I've had a pet too. I always love visiting people that have pets. Where I live, I am unable to keep a pet--landlord rules--, but I used to see a calico cat roaming the hills. I hope the coyotes didn't get him!
What a wonderful joy for your family!
p.s. I really like how you express yourself through your clothing and accessories when I see them. you have a great style.
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It is an extraordinary feeling loving a pet and people should not shy away from it. "It's just a dog, it's just a cat" people say. It's a beloved member of the family, it's sometimes (and in some cases more than ever) the best companion you have and always a joyful relationship. Enjoy your new baby love (for he's a baby during a few months). :)
Perseu seems to be a lovely kitty... I know what you mean, I love my pets too, they're funny and bring peace to my family.
Long life to Perseu! =]
I'm glad for you Luciana. But to Malu, why should I "not shy away from it"? Naturally, if I respect or love a person I must respect their choice of pet, but that's as far as it goes. I love wild creatures more. I don't mean cuddly ones either, but the ones I encounter in daily life at home: spiders, wasps, slugs, woodlice, rats, as well as the wild birds who visit my little garden. It's a different sort of love, one which does not mimic mother-love, but is based on profound admiration for nature in making these creatures completely independent of human nurture.
Lu,
The kitten as well as you are cute. Is that she? She has large ears.
Is it cold over there right now? Behind you, are they logs? Are you wearing a sweater? You did mentioned before that where you live gets cold. But still, the image of Brazil is a warm place.
Oh, yes, you made a point. It looks warm and cozy.
Oh, no, The Prince of Curiosity.
It's he, not princess.
Malu, I know what you mean: many people we know would love to have a pet but don´t because they don´t feel capable of looking after or loving anything.It has nothing to do with the pet, actually. Well, people change... (hopefully) :-)
Lidi, I hope he doesn´t turn out to be as belligerent as his namesake. ;-) And I´m afraid there won´t be an Andromeda in his life...
Vincent, one of the reasons I love cats and dogs, and all animals, actually, is because they remind me we share something wild. They remind me about my belonging in nature. I would never, ever, have a bird cage in my home, because I love birds, and keeping them in cages would be depriving them of their nature, which is to fly.
Cats are hunters, and I´m fully aware I have one at home.
All creatures are wild, Vincent, including humans. Realizing about our essence, our wild nature, is the best way to keep it healthy.
Keiko, it´s cold here now! Malu and Lidi can confirm that, we live in the same town.
It´s a fireplace you see in the background and staring at the fire is one of my favorite activities when I want to relax. Of course now a feline accompanies me in that... :-)
Oh, I there Vincent.:) What I (probably clumsly) meant is that we should not shy away from whomever we love. Spiders. Mouses (my father had a mouse when he was very young and completely alone). When you have pets people may make you feel like it's not right to pour so much affection into animals. I think it's BS. Love and let love, that's all. And for the mimicking parental love, well, that's from one's very personal nature, either you're gonna do it, or not. Not everybody MUST have a pet. Or children. Or, say, climb mountains. But if they decide to, I'd say live it shamelessly. :)
Malu, I agree with you. My sister (who sometimes reads my blog but won't, I think read this) has an aged Siamese cat that she acquired from an animal rescue place. It was love at first sight - from one side at any rate. It seems to me it would be kinder to the cat to have had its life humanely terminated years ago, such is the extent of its ailments and probable sufferings. When she goes away she has to employ cat-sitters for it is too frail to be sent to a cattery. I have been sometimes reluctant to visit her house because of the cat's incontinence.
But as you say, love is love. Unrequited love is often thought of as a sickness. I imagine that it's hard to prove conclusively that a cat loves its provider, however much the provider loves the cat.
Now the thing is, I would never breathe a word to my sister about my thoughts on this. Yet for some reason, I feel it is OK to behave badly when a guest of Luciana. And Keiko will know what I mean too. I behave badly on her blog in the same way.
I have to finish translating that Miguel Torga´s short story for you, Vincent, even if you don´t like my translation.
Anyway, you bring into question two very interesting points:
1.Love. I´ve lost many loved ones, including both my parents, to understand it is about letting others live and not having them as comfort toys we keep in our pockets, metaphorically speaking. I think that is true for humans as well as other species. And when the time comes that life is not about living anymore, but becomes an unbearable torture and an imprisonment in a suffering body, I believe it is best to let go, to end it, if possible. Honestly. I´m quite open about this. I agree with you, your sister should have ended that.
2. The way you 'handle' love. You know, I don´t impose my children, my husband and, to an extension, my pet to anyone. They are my loved ones, nobody else needs to find them cute, attractive, special etc. There are many people who are uncomfortable with animals, so they don´t need to have a cat thrown in their lap when they come over to visit. Quite honestly, I have an aunt whose dachshund drives me nuts, and it´s always the same thing when I visit her: I ring the doorbell, the dog barks his lungs out, she yells at him, opens the door, he jumps at my legs, she scolds him, then grabs him and locks him away. They do that to every single person who goes there. Why didn´t she lock him away when she heard the doorbell ring? A mystery.
As I said before, I appreciate your visits, Vincent. You´re honest, and I like that.
Lol! You didn't behave badly, Vincent. Let me wish your sister luck in her difficulty in letting her pet go. I have helped people understand they have to help their pets go, have lost my share of pets, and it's a touchy subject, it has to be handled very carefully and involves a lot of tears. We do that cause we know it's the right thing to be done, but it stings as hell. Too bad we can barely bring the subject up when it involves human suffering, hu? Great meeting you. :)
PS: I'm sorry they lock the poor neurotic dashchund, Lu. They're usually the sweetest things. :/
He is so precious, Lu, and look how his little face rests so perfectly on his paw. It's been a long time since I've had a pet too. I always love visiting people that have pets. Where I live, I am unable to keep a pet--landlord rules--, but I used to see a calico cat roaming the hills. I hope the coyotes didn't get him!
What a wonderful joy for your family!
p.s. I really like how you express yourself through your clothing and accessories when I see them. you have a great style.
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